Feeling Good? Whose LIST is it Anyway? PART I

Each and every human wants to feel better.  We each have a LIST in our minds of what can ‘make’ us feel good.  We also have a LIST of things that can ‘make’ us feel bad.  Many times these two LISTs exist only in the subconscious mind.  These LISTs of things that ‘make’ us feel good or bad were created in combination with patterns received from our parents, our culture, our society, and our own personal tastes.  So the question is, who actually controls the LISTs?

A feeling is a specific frequency of emotion.  The feelings we feel each have a frequency.  Feelings that feel good have a frequency and feelings that feel bad have a frequency.  If the feeling has a frequency that is on our ‘good’ LIST we feel good.  If the feeling has a frequency that is on our ‘bad’ LIST we feel bad.

So how do the frequencies of feelings get on our LISTS?  Well, to find this answer, we have to stop and think about what is going on inside us.  And this is something most of us don’t spend a lot of time doing.  But if we’re serious about feeling better, then it’s something we have to accept as a reality.  Otherwise, the only time we get to feel better is when one of the items on our LIST come up. 

Just like anything else based upon frequency, feelings with a frequency that feels ‘bad’ per our definition, can only be changed when we feel feelings with a frequency of ‘good’ per our definition.  And it’s interesting when we consider the things that some of us feel bad about at the same time cause others to feel good.

For example, if you are a sports fan, if your team wins, you feel good.  Simultaneously, the fans of the other team feel bad.  When in fact what happened is simply neutral.  Consider what really happens when two teams compete in a sport.

Two groups of people train themselves to be able to function as a team within a guideline of mutually accepted rules.  Those two groups then get together to compete within an agreed upon time limit and according to the agreed upon rules.  At the end of the time limit, one team has more points than the other.  That’s all that happens in sports.  If someone who doesn’t know the rules or doesn’t care about the outcome of the competition witnesses the event, to them it was just a neutral event.

Here’s the point, we are the ones who supply the meaning to the outcome.  An outcome in sport is just a measurement of performance based upon skills, time and rules applied.  The meaning as to whether we feel good or bad is supplied by us.  We provide the meaning which then assigns the feeling according to our LIST!  If the team that wins is on my LIST, I feel good.  If a team that’s not on my LIST wins, I feel bad.

The same thing goes for what happens in our day to day life.  No matter what happens in your life, if an event occurs that’s either on your good or bad LIST, that’s how you will feel.  You assign the meaning of the event and that meaning is expressed by how you feel.  Many times there things on our LIST that are generally accepted culturally and socially to be good or bad.  But does it make sense to allow those around us to be able to decide what gets put on our LIST? 

We’ll talk about that in my next post!  Until then, here’s to things happening that are on your good LIST!  And if not, think about who gets to make changes to your LIST!

Be well!